You're the Asshole
Your boss is done. Your significant other is done. Your children don't like you. Now what?
Attend The Asshole Intensive.
What: A 2-Day Intensive + 6 Months of Coaching + 1 Equine Coaching Session (because horses don’t care about your title and won't tolerate your bullshit)
Who Is This For: For Lawyers, Doctors, and Senior Leaders Running Out of Chances
What You’ll Gain: Understand why you're an asshole, stop hating yourself for it, and rebuild your emotional operating system so you can finally unleash your mad skills without the drama.
The Shift: From brilliant and destructive to brilliant and trusted—your intensity becomes influence, not wreckage.
Stop Being an Asshole. Keep Your Fire.
In this 6-month engagement, you'll use The No Assholes Assessment and Emotional Intelligence 3.0 to transform from the leader everyone fears into the leader everyone follows.
You'll understand why you operate this way: The exact triggers, patterns, and emotional architecture that turn you destructive under pressure
You'll rebuild your operating system: Not tips to "be nicer," but a fundamental rewiring of how you process stress, conflict, and intensity
You'll keep your fire without the wreckage: Still direct, still demanding, but no longer the person everyone's afraid of
You'll get documented proof through before-and-after assessments that you've stopped being an asshole—and become the leader people actually want to follow.
A reconstructive approachWhy Managing Your Temper Keeps the Village Burning
Most leaders can identify the symptoms: explosive reactions, burned bridges, and teams that scatter. But the root cause—the emotional operating system driving the destruction—remains untouched.
Without rewiring what's underneath, you're left wondering: Am I actually changing or just white-knuckling my way through?
This intensive is designed to end the wreckage left in your wake.
Gain Clarity on Your Mad Skills Without Drama
You will walk away from this engagement with:
The truth about why you operate this way: Exact triggers, patterns, and emotional architecture fueling your destructive behavior (not generic "anger management")
A rebuilt emotional operating system: Fundamental rewiring of how you process stress and conflict, not tips to "be nicer"
Documented proof of transformation: Before-and-after assessments showing you've stopped being an asshole and become the leader people follow
Your edge intact: Still direct, still demanding, still high-performing—just no longer leaving wreckage
I’m Dr. Tomi White Bryan, creator of Emotional Intelligence 3.0®, and I save assholes.
Why do I save them? Because I used to be one, and I know life is so much better on the other side.
I was the leader everyone feared. My way or the highway. I called it standards and passion. My brothers called it what it was: I could go from zero to asshole in 2/10 of a second, and I left bodies in my wake.
Then I did the brutal work of understanding why—not to excuse it, but to dismantle it.
I rebuilt my emotional operating system from the ground up.
Now I'm still direct. Still demanding. But I'm not the monster anymore.
I've spent my career building the tools that made my own transformation possible—so brilliant, intense leaders like you don't have to choose between effectiveness and wreckage. You can have both your fire and your integrity. I'm living proof.
Most well-being work focuses on symptom relief. My work addresses the invisible emotional architecture that quietly erodes your reputation, relationships, and legacy—the patterns that keep you stuck even when you're doing "all the right things."
Research confirms what you already know: unmanaged intensity leads to burned teams, shattered trust, and career implosion. But here's what's missing from anger management and executive coaching: a clear pathway to rebuild your operating system, not just manage symptoms.
I save assholes because they're not broken—they're miswired. And once rewired, their intensity becomes their greatest asset.
Stop Burning Bridges. Start Building Your Legacy.
By the end of this 6-month intensive, you'll have stopped being an asshole—with documented proof of transformation—and rebuilt your leadership so your mad skills, without the drama, finally change everything.
To apply or get more information, please fill out the form.
Dr. Bryan will be in touch within 1 business day of your submission.